We all know that now we are in 21st century and with time, women have gained an equitable position in the society. Now, women don't just need to blindly follow their partner, they have their freedom, they can rule their world, they have the right to live the way they want. The reasons when women get confused or hurt are many and they make women sick and depressed. As in this modern world women are being independent and even managing many tasks it is also their responsibility to choose the right person to marry considering various factors or instances. Some important things to consider are stated below,
1) Is the Guy Possessive
Women do not like guys being over possessive. Being possessive may be a symbol of true love but being over possessive ruins the relation. Being jealous when you see your partner moving close with others may seem sweet only in the beginning but when that is repeated and crosses the limits then it becomes unbearable. Some possessive guys ask their partners to quit their job and check their phones and always keep an eye on them. This causes irritation in women and hence they feel need for freedom to live their life in their way and break up with that guy. Even after marriage if your partner seems to be your boss and decides your career, your dressing and also the people with whom you should talk to it becomes unbearable and paves way for depression. Girls have very little to decide upon like career, dressing and friends. If even those are being decided by others then they feel depressed. So never make your girl reach this position. Girls are quite sensitive and need to be given the importance they are worth of just as a human being.
2) Are there any Clashes in Career Options
Your partner works in the night shift and you in the day shift! This is heights of disappointment. You may comfort yourself saying that this is not forever but who can predict the future? All want to be happy at this very moment. No one likes to wait for that perfect day to arrive. We create our perfect day and we are responsible for our life. We cannot be patient enough to keep on waiting for the day our partner will change the shift and be with us. So at this instance the best option is to find someone who can be with you and work while you are working and spend the rest of the time with you. Also, nowadays the time spent together has become very less because of the workload. If you do not have even the time you are free from your work in common then there is no meaning in saying that you are together. So always choose someone who can promise to spend time with you to know each other better and stick to each other for ever.
3) When the Guy is Unemployed
This is the most important and most occurring reason for girls to leave their partners. You can't see someone enjoying your money when you work that hard and come home to see some one spending your money sitting home. Also because of male ego guys would not help you in household activities. This is the instance when girls feel that their choice is wrong and they should have selected someone better to be together lifelong. I don't say that women may sit home without working. We are sure that when women do not work they monitor all household works and cook food. So it is fair if women is home and it is also fair if a guy sits home doing all the things women does when she is sitting home. But no, guys wont do it. Even if they do, it is hard to see guys sitting home as the outsiders comment a lot and make you feel worse.
4) Is She Being Noticed and Encouraged
We can say that women are attention seekers. They love to be noticed and praised whether it is for their looks or their accomplishments. So if you aren't noticing a women even for biggest milestones in her life then you lose your position in her heart because you are making her feel low and ignored. We human beings love to be praised and noticed for every small thing to do. We need at-least one person to whom a small accomplishment by us matters a lot and who always supports us and encourages us. Women expect life partner to be that one person. So if you fail to be that, then you have lost your position in her life.
5) What If the Guy is Dumb
We all like to be in the company of some one active and energetic, someone who can think a little and has a little of common sense. It is hard to be with someone who is senseless and dumb. We lose the joy of a small joke also if we are with a dumb man. So by any chance if a woman gets attracted to a dumb person she will take hardly any time to know this and after realising its hard to stick to him. If both are dumb it must be the best pair possible! ( CHUCKLES)
6) Do Parents Like Him
Always parents choice must be considered as we cannot hurt our parents. If they are hurt then we can never be happy with that in mind. Deciding our life partner, this is the biggest decision of both ours and our parents life. If their opinion isn't considered or their opinion isn't valued we also get hurt. So if it gets hard to convince then in any case then the only way left is to listen to them and give up on our choice. I don't think any genuine love will be rejected by our parents if we explain them, that too in this modern days. So still if our parents remain unconvinced then we give up.
7) Confused About Marriage
Marriage is the most important event of our life. We should decide whom to marry based on our true feelings without the influence of others. If we marry the correct person we can stay happy throughout our life. But we shouldn't take chance after marriage because Marriage has great importance and we should strive to maintain it. We should get responsible for it. Before marrying we should know the importance of love. The ultimate confusion we all have is are we really in love? This confusion cannot be solved by anyone but us. Our feelings will tell us the answer and it is our duty to know whether the feeling is temporary and false or true and forever. It may take time to realise our true love but once we realise it is hard to be with someone we can't love anymore. This is the instance when we give up and move on to find our true love. When we find it we should get married. If we get married then we should love that person and become responsible.
8) When in Stress
We all get stressed because of our work tensions, deadlines and also because we need to balance both personal and professional life. Isn't it hard to maintain the balance as well as be happy in all conditions? We need a person who understands the reason behind our anger when we suddenly burst out on them sometimes. But if both the persons are under this pressure then it is difficult to handle the situation for both of them. Stress is the main reason for relations breaking so easily nowadays. People nowadays find it easy to break a relation rather than adjusting to it and finding life easier with the same person. They are always in search of someone who can understand them and make them feel happy. In short we are all dependent on others even in being happy. We compare our life partners with gadgets we change every time we get bored. But this is completely wrong. People must start finding the difference between replacing a gadget and a life partner. Only then will the breakups because of this reason vanish. We all have to learn balancing ourselves under stress because we can't keep on changing our partners. The urge to be happy lies in us. If we identify it and start balancing it by compromising a little and understanding our partners a little then our partner will also change and this way our life changes. So be the one who is independent of others in being happy and see the difference.
9) Can You Go on Happy Together Forever
Our search in this life is for happiness or joy. So the most important considerations while choosing a partner should be Can you be happy with that person around? Can you be happy with that person throughout your life? Can you just forgive that person when they burst out in anger due to some reason and then say sorry to you? Can you be yourself, your true self with that person? Can you compromise for that person? and Do you trust that person? In short these are all the same, Compatibility with that person. So if we feel that we can sail the boat of our life with that person smoothly even if we imagine a storm hitting our boat then it is sure that life is fun with that person. Otherwise it is just another person. So If we cannot be the above then that person is not meant for us and we give up. Life is actually quite simple, the decision lies in your hands!
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